Relationship advice columnist Roudy Romeo has been there and knows how to help. He dishes out the truth just as he sees it in our newest addition to The Socialite offering readers life, sex and relationship advice in his signature sharp style. Check out this week’s edition entitled Lip Service…

Dear Roudy Romeo

I have had several relationships before but I am always the one who seems to get dumped. I really give my all into the relationship but something isn’t working. What could I possibly be doing wrong?

Lonely Lips

Dear Lonely Lips

This is a tough one but I will make the exception and take the guy’s side on this one. I am sorry, but if you cannot keep what is perhaps the simplest organism on Earth to continue eating out of your hand then maybe you should remember to refill your hand. As a lovely friend of mine once put it: the only thing you need to keep a guy’s attention is to feed him and flirt with him. The order in which you do these is not important.

Let’s start with food. I’m sure that you have heard the saying that they way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. It is no lie either, guys are always hungry. We have an appetite for all things nutritious – physically and sexually. You need to learn to cook or at least learn the Mr Delivery number. If your culinary skills are less than impressive then wow him with quantity.

Guys are always attracted to a larger serving, 500g T-bones and car engines are great examples. If you really do struggle in the kitchen then allow him to rev his own engine in the kitchen or in your driveway as he arrives to take you out. Keeping with ingredients, flirting too should be fresh. And like Cher’s song, it’s in his kiss. This is not the days of old, a smooch on the lips with the same facial expression of that of a brick is not flirting. In fact it screams “PLEASE DO NOT MAKE A MOVE ON ME”. And yes I know it’s not about the physical attraction all the time, but guys like to feel as if they are wanted.

What you must know is, is that guys do not pick up on hints. Flirting with your eyes or body may be good for across the bar or on the dance floor, but one on one and to avoid any confusion I suggest that you tell him. Use your womanly, God-given talents and tell him. If that doesn’t work then pucker up and put those lips to use. A kiss is a simple action yet it can convey more than words could ever do. They say a picture is worth a thousand words, let your kiss be the flirting picture your emotions can’t say.

If you by any chance still find that these do not work the look within yourself. If you happen to see a stage five clinger waving back and texting you every two minutes because you did not reply to the last text then you have already answered your own question. Guys tend to look for a girl who won’t change, girls look for a guy who they can change. Be yourself and you won’t feel that you need to change to be someone else when you are in a relationship; it is not what the guy signed up for when you started dating.

Here’s hoping you get to kiss and tell…

 Your kissing connection

Roudy Romeo